One thing our family law clients tells us every year is that they are worried about how to split time with their co-parent, especially around the holidays. During an already stressful season and during a pandemic, you may have similar concerns about how the holiday season will go this year. Here are some tips from our family law team about how to make the holidays this year enjoyable, even with what’s going on in the world right now.
- Make a Plan. Talk to your co-parent well in advance about your schedule during the holidays. Plan for pick-ups, drop-offs, and what days you and your ex will have the kids. You should also set expectations about what you feel safe doing during the holidays this year with health concerns at the forefront of your mind. For example, if you do not feel comfortable taking your kids to large family gatherings, let your co-parent know to avoid these when possible when they have the kids.
- Start New Traditions. The holidays may look a little different this year, especially if you are newly divorced. Instead of hanging onto old family rituals to relive former happiness, create some new traditions of your own to make things feel special.
- Do Not Feel Pressured to Overcompensate. Because of the pandemic, your financial situation may have been impacted and there may be less room in your budget for the holiday season. Do not feel the pressure to buy your children’s love – coordinate with your co-parent to come up with a budget for gifts well before the holidays are under way.
- Stay Flexible. At times, trying to co-parent with your ex during the holidays may feel unfair. Try to stay flexible and remember that neither you nor your former spouse will get everything you want. Make compromises when you can and remember that your flexibility can make things better for your children this holiday season.